Cavric Chronicles - New Horizons Explored

We live in an amazing time and are afforded the luxury of opportunities to live intentional lives.  There is nothing to stop us from living our dreams except ourselves.  Do you know what your dream is, what your purpose is, what gets you out of bed in the morning?  If you do know all that, what is holding you back from your success? (p.s. How do you define success for yourself?) Once we can target where we are and how we want to proceed, sometimes it is a mystery that we find ourselves stuck.  ‘Stuckness’ can serve a purpose.  It can be a necessary percolating time to learn what we need to move forward.  When that percolating time has finished, it may be time to figure out what stumbling blocks we aren’t aware of.  One area to explore is thoughts we have stored and accepted as true, that have become limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are many times unconscious messages that may no longer be valid or useful to us.  The messages we receive come from...

By:  Ivan Cavric For most people in our society, life will hold little more than a dutiful slog in the 9-5 rat race for forty years before retiring. Many will look back on their lives and wished they’d had an opportunity to have done something different. Some may have even had opportunities to do so but didn’t take them. One thought is very common: “I wish I could’ve done something else but I never really knew what I wanted to do.” Sounds familiar, yes? Relax. Because I can help you identify what it is you’d really like to do and I can show you how to begin. It all starts by asking yourself three very important questions and I believe these questions are the most important questions you can ask yourself. Here they are: 1. What, EXACTLY, do I want to do? This question gets straight to the heart of the matter and it requires SPECIFIC answers. Also, your answer should be something you have a passion for and are genuinely interested in and not something you think others would be impres...

By:  Ivan Cavric Everyone is periodically faced with an angry person, and can be challenging to deal with. I'd like to share a few ideas in how to react to another's anger, whether it's a spouse, friend, or even a stranger. Some of these will also apply if you are angry yourself, which of course is something to avoid in the first place. Listen   Let the person vent a little, and get their words and feelings out. If you interrupt them too quickly to defend yourself, it's going to just make things worse. Wait for them to finish or for a pause. Being a good listener is an important skill in many other situations also. A good technique for listening is to ask questions. It not only helps you understand them better, but shows them you truly care to understand.   Stay Calm - Don't go into anger mode yourself, it just compounds the situation. Just remind yourself that anger is unlikely to accomplish anything good, so why do it.   Validate   Validate their anger, do no...

By:  Ivan Cavric There is a lot of information available online about Personal Development. There are a myriad of different, techniques, solutions, tapes, CDs, seminars etc. But have you ever been able to get them to work? Have you have tried everything on the market? Do you jump on all the new fads and courses? If you do and your life is still not working or you have come to the point where you are seriously starting to doubt if any of this stuff really works then you need to read this article now! Does this sound like you?   Is nothing working in your life? No matter how many self improvement tapes you listen to do you just seem to be stuck on the same merry-go-round? Is your job is unsatisfying and do your personal relationships "suck"? Are your finances a mess and could your health be better? If can answer "yes' to any of these questions, or worse you can answer "yes" to all of them, then you need to set yourself straight in your own mind!   Firstly, a...

By:  Ivan Cavric One of the most common things we do on a day to day basis is communicate with other people. Good communication can lead to a better understanding of people and perhaps more importantly, allowing others to fully understand us. This is especially important in business. Communication means have changed dramatically over the years, with the introduction of modern telecommunications such as faxes and email, but still the most widely used communication tool is the telephone. The telephone is a very powerful tool, especially when used within a business environment and many people underestimate its importance and more importantly, the importance of the person using it.   When a potential client phones a company, their first impression of that company is created by the person who answers the phone. In order to ensure that the caller develops a positive image within their mind, the person answering the call must be efficient, confident and capable of inspiring confidenc...

By:  Ivan Cavric In your twenties, going with your gut instinct had you dirty-dancing with your boss, drunk dialing your ex and cutting your own fringe. Turns out, like a fine wine, your instincts get better with age. Sometimes it's easy to act on impulse. Imagine you're crossing the road and a car swerves towards you.  You're not going to question the "Run!" urge, are you? But in everyday life when we're trying to make a decision, it's  all too easy for your gut instinct to be drowned out by dithering. Instinct is a powerful thing but often we don't trust it - we feel we have to have a sound explanation for out beliefs, so our instinct  argue with our sensible side. However that feeling in your bones could be just the tool you need to help you make your mind up. A lot of it is about recognising familiar or comparable situations and your instinct is more reliable as you get older, because  it's based on more experience so from which dress to wear, ...

By:  Ivan Cavric It's easy to forget just how powerful our subconscious minds can be. We are often completely unaware of how our actions or in-actions are affecting our lives. We may complain that things never work out for us, we have bad luck, or we just don't have what it takes to be successful. What we fail to realize is that we are actually creating our own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage. In order to overcome self-sabotage we first have to use conscious awareness to explore our emotions and fears, and understand how they influence our actions. Once we have determined the cause of the destructive behaviour, we can then take steps to prevent it from happening in the future. What's really hap pening when we sabotage ourselves? Subconsciously, we may be frightened by a particular outcome, even though we say we want it. Take, for example, losing weight. Many overweight people have struggled for years, tried diet after diet, and still can't lose t he wei...

 By:  Ivan Cavric It’s only a couple of weeks into the New Year and all those goals and resolutions you wanted for yourself are already slipping away. One of two things is happening: Either you simply never got started, or you’re running out of steam. Not getting started is common. Even with all the great enthusiasm and excitement we had about the year, the diversion of the holidays and then just trying to get back into our normal routines didn’t allow us to incorporate our new goals into our old schedules. The goals we initially set now seem too difficult to know where to start. Simply put, we are busy and distracted by the overall tasks of our lives. Don’t worry. There is always “tomorrow” or next year. The other common element to resolution failure is burn out. It is comically predictable, but have you ever noticed the level of activity the first week of January? Go to any gym and you will see it packed. In fact, January 1st and 2nd are two of the busiest days in gym attend...

  By: Ivan Cavric I seem to have lost count on how many times I've read and heard of celebrity marriages failing almost left and right. Not that I care (and personally I don't), it seems strange that we often see movie and TV stars as flawless people, living the fairytale life of riches and glamour. I suppose we all have to stop sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality. There are many ways to lose your sense of self-esteem despite of how trivial it could get. But whatever happens, we should all try not to lose our own sense of self. So what does it take to be a cut above the rest? Here are some of the things you can think and improve on that should be enough for a week. 1. Know your purpose Are you wandering through life with little direction - hoping that you'll find happiness, health and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your truth north every time. This may seem tricky ...